Being nice to your girlfriend may seem like something that should come naturally, yet somehow so many guys end up in difficulties and some even risk losing their relationship altogether.

At first glance it seems all pretty easy, do not ever take her for granted, always show your appreciation for having her in your life, and tell her frequently that you love her. But to put these things into practice takes constant attention – no slacking or sliding.

Keep in mind that it is the little things that count the most. A foot rub for tired feet, a neck rub after a particularly stressful day, supper on the table if you are the first one home, a smile greeting her when you see her, helping with the laundry or dishes. You get the idea…

However, if things between you have cooled down considerably recently, try to figure out the reason for it. Whether or not you have done something wrong, it may be up to you to fix it. If you don’t, things will only get worse and she will eventually quit the relationship.

Keep going for some more advice…

Maybe you have been spending too much time playing video games and not spending enough quality time with her. Put the video game away and ask her if there is anything she would like to do for the evening. Then, whether you want to do it or not, go do it. Putting her first for a change will make her feel important in your life and not like she is playing second fiddle to your video game habit.

A woman wants the most important man in her life to be attentive, helpful, cuddly, loving, and respectful. It seems like a lot to try to keep tabs on, but it really isn’t. It is the little things that count. For example, if the two of you are watching TV together, sit and cuddle on the couch. Cover up with a blanket. If she should happen to not feel well, fix her some soup and buy her a magazine she would like to read while she is recuperating.

While the day-to-day is all well and good, you might want to treat her now and again too. Talk to her about things she is interested in or ask her about things she would like to try and hasn’t yet, then do your best to make them happen for her. Spoil her a little bit every now and then.

You may also want to try to tell the difference between when she is just venting about a situation and when she really does want you to fix the problem she is having. If you can’t tell, then ask her, she will let you know in no uncertain terms which one it is. If you can fix it, then do. If you can’t then don’t even try –  but tell her you don’t know how, do not just ignore the situation – in fact, maybe you can help work on things together.

Finally, don’t do sweet things just to try to get a reward and be an insensitive jerk the rest of the time. She is not stupid and will see through this and eventually tire of the games and kick you to the curb. Be sweet and mean it, otherwise you will find yourself in search of a new girlfriend.

Come on, guys, just show some thought for your girl and, chances are, she’ll do the same for you…